*Disclaimer: We're probably going through with the FET regardless of how much this post may weigh in the opposite direction. Please be sensitive to that in your comments. I want to hear your opinions but I just want you to be sensitive. Thanks!*
Mostly, I'm scared. I'm scared to have another baby (or two more babies!) I'm scared that I won't be able to handle parenting another child. I'm already scared to death that I'm ruining Gavin on a daily basis. I'm scared that it won't work. I'm scared that it will work and I'll miscarry. I'm scared of being pregnant while having a small child. I'm scared!!!
Most of the time I just need to write it all out. It may not solve the problem (aka calm the voices in my head) but it helps...somehow.
Reasons I want to do the FET now (in no particular order):
- I'd rather put the $650 embryo storage fees towards the actual FET costs
- I really want G to have a sibling close in age
- I feel like I'm running out of childbearing years
- I worry that I will actually get pregnant naturally again and we'll never want to use our frozen embabies. I will not have them destroyed!
- I should be pregnant now!!! (I'm pretty sure this is the main reason for wanting to do the FET now)
- SIL is going to start TTC #2 soon and I know it'll kill me to see her pregnant
- One child is plenty of work!
- I'm scared to death of that newborn stage (not to mention, D.E.L.I.V.E.R.Y.) again
- I finally have G on such an awesome schedule, do I really really want to upset the peace (Funny, I had this same thought about TTC #1, I was worried a baby would upset the balance in our marriage)
- We really don't have space for another baby
- Will G feel neglected with a new baby in the house? (The thought of this is almost enough reason to cancel right now)
3 comments:
I get it - sort of. If I were in your shoes I imagine I would feel the same way.
But doing a FET slows down the clock... so you *could* wait a bit. Parenting children so close together does present challenges - but I think the 2nd child presents challenges no matter how close in age, or so I hear.
Bottom line... I think your fears are perfectly normal. You just have to go with your gut.
I could have written both of your lists (with the exception of the FET)! Get out of my head!! haha
Hmm, this is a tough one. As much as I can't imagine being pregnant again or having another baby soon, I don't plan to wait nearly as long as I first thought b/c it took us so long to get pregnant initially. I guess the saying is true - you are never fully prepared for a new baby, the timing may never be exactly perfect. But we still do it, time and time again, because we want those little babes. It will all work out just fine for you and your family!
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